picked up some things from the sabbatical today.

we all socialise with people for selfish reasons. the need for acceptance. the need for companionship. these are all basic needs that we all want to be met. don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong in being selfish, unless one's selfishness becomes possessive and overboard.

we all hope to obtain something from interacting with the different people in our lives. there's nothing wrong in that. in fact, this causes some sort of mutual interdependence amongst people. but what do we look out for when socialising, or even making friends? perhaps common interests, similar ways of thinking?

which brings me to my question. if some people we know do not like to interact/socialise with us, does this mean we're not meeting their needs? does it mean we have different needs? if so, does this mean we can't communicate and eventually become friends?